Knowing Isn't the Same as Healing

You can know why you do it.

You can trace it back to your childhood, to that moment you were left out, shamed, silenced, or made to feel like too much. You can name the pattern, understand the dynamic, even predict your own reactions with uncanny precision.

And still — it happens. You shut down. You please. You push people away. You spiral. You ache.

Insight is valuable. It lights the way. But it doesn’t always change the feeling in your body. It doesn’t undo years of pain. It doesn’t soften the defences that formed before you had words for any of this.

Healing is slower. More embodied. Less linear. It happens when something in you is met — not analysed, but felt with. When your nervous system begins to learn that it’s safe now. When the old story gets rewritten not through logic, but through experience.

You can’t think your way out of pain that was formed in relationship. But you can begin to heal it — slowly — within the safety of a consistent, attuned therapeutic space.